Both trial and mediation require a little “time traveling”. At trial, the lawyers ask the jury to fix their gaze upon a particular moment when an event occurred that caused their client to be damaged or caused a disruption in business or their lives.
Thinking this way doesn’t mean living a fantasy life and avoiding problems or cutting yourself off from the rest of the commonly less than positive world. More positive thinking can result in less stress in your life and consequently better health.
You may want or need to accomplish something, but that’s dependent on getting information or an action by another party.
We value our relationships, and in the back of our minds the thought of reciprocity may be bouncing around (“Maybe I’ll have to ask this person for something in the future…”) but we can’t please everyone all the time.